Confidence doesn't come from someone else choosing you, it comes when you are brave enough and bold enough to choose yourself! Listen in to learn why waiting for permission is a trap and how to break free from it.
If you’re tired of standing on the sidelines of your own dreams, get ready for a bold wake-up call on taking control and stepping into the life you’ve always wanted—no green light needed. In this episode, we unpack the myth of permission and guide listeners on a journey to embrace their desires boldly, step outside of their comfort zones, and take the first steps toward a life designed on their terms.
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Episode 1
(0:05) Are you ready to win despite everyone who's ever said you wouldn't? (0:10) Then let's go. (0:11) It's time to prove those doubters wrong.
(0:14) Hi, and welcome to the Last Laugh No Apologies podcast.
(0:18) I'm your host, Kristine Christiansen. (0:21) I'm a mom, passionate entrepreneur, and success coach. (0:24) If you're ready to finally flip the script on all those doubts in your head and the doubters (0:29) in your life that have been holding you back, you my friend are in the right place.
(0:34) It's time to dust off that crown, show them what you're made of, and remind them that (0:38) you are the main character in this life story. (0:41) Get ready, because you're about to make them regret that they ever doubted you, and (0:45) I'm here to cheer you on.
(0:48) Each week, we'll dive into mindset shifts, inspiring stories, and practical strategies (0:54) that are designed to help you realize your worth and embrace the amazing women that (0:58) you are, and step into your power so you can start living your life unapologetically.
(1:04) It's time for some real talk, some laughs, and some transformation. (1:09) Are you ready? (1:10) Okay, let's dive into today's episode.
(1:18) Hey there, welcome to the Last Laugh No Apologies podcast.
(1:23) If you're here, then I bet you're so over waiting for someone to finally say, yes, (1:29) you can do it. (1:30) Go on girl, it's your time. (1:34) News flash, you don't need anyone else's permission.
(1:38) Okay, I can hear your thoughts right now. (1:41) Yeah, right, or yeah, you just don't get it. (1:44) Oh, but I do get it.
(1:48) Still don't believe me? (1:50) Then how about you use this episode as your permission slip? (1:55) So if you're still sitting on the sidelines of your own life, (1:58) today's episode is your wake-up call. (2:00) So listen up, because you're in the driver's seat and now it's time to hit the gas.
(2:09) All right, let's get real about this idea of waiting for permission.
(2:15) It's something that so many of us do without even realizing it, right? (2:19) Whether it's waiting for validation from family or friends, (2:22) or just that extra kick in the ass to get us into action.
(2:27) So here's what I think. (2:29) Waiting for permission isn't just a waste of time, it's a frickin' trap.
(2:35) It's like waiting in line for a ride that doesn't even exist. (2:39) You're standing there patiently hoping that someone, anyone, (2:44) will notice your potential or just give you that golden ticket (2:47) to go ahead and live your dream. (2:51) But let me tell you, waiting for someone else's green light (2:53) is like signing up for the slowest bus in town and it ain't coming.
(2:59) You're here to live your life, not someone else's idea of it. (3:07) You know what? (3:09) The world doesn't just hand out permission slips to the bold, the brave, (3:13) and the ready to kick some ass people. (3:16) Those people, they just go for it.
(3:19) So if you're out there thinking, (3:21) I’d do this if I had the support from so-and-so or I'd really love to try that (3:27) if I wasn't so worried about other people's opinions, (3:30) what are they going to think? What are they going to say?
(3:34) Well, I'm here to tell you that every if is just a detour (3:38) that takes you further off the path of your dreams. (3:42) And I think maybe it's time to say enough of that. (3:46) If you want something or all of the things, (3:50) you're the only one who has to say yes to it (3:54) because no one else will do it for you.
(3:58) That's just a nice way of saying, (3:59) it's time to save yourself, honey, because no one else is coming to your rescue.
(4:08) Now, let's dig into what's really holding you back. (4:12) Because if you're sitting around waiting, (4:14) there's something deeper at play here.
(4:18) Like, are you actually afraid to own what you want? (4:24) Owning your desires means admitting to yourself (4:27) what it is that you truly want unapologetically. (4:31) This is where the magic happens. (4:33) And, yeah, it can be scary.
(4:37) Maybe you've been telling yourself, I'll do it once I'm ready. (4:42) Or when the timing is perfect or when I have this done or when that's ready. (4:47) But let me just remind you that no one ever feels fully ready.
(4:51) It's just something we make up to keep ourselves comfortable. (4:56) But we can all admit it. (4:59) Comfortable can just suck sometimes.
(5:05) Imagine you're talking to your best friend and she says, (5:08) hey, I'm just waiting for the right time to be happy. (5:12) You'd probably look at her like, girl, are you serious? (5:14) Just go out there and grab it. (5:17) Sometimes we need to take that same tough love approach with ourselves.
(5:20) Tell yourself, I'm not here to play small. (5:23) I'm here for the career that makes me excited to wake up. (5:26) The financial freedom, the relationships that light me up.
(5:31) No shame, no excuses.
(5:33) Okay, but what does it mean to actually live life on your own terms? (5:45) I think it means setting up your own damn rules. (5:48) No more, I can't do that because it's too risky.
(5:51) Or people might judge me. (5:52) They might not approve. (5:54) What are they going to say? (5:55) Here's a thought.
(5:57) What if you just finally went all in and made your dream life a non-negotiable? (6:02) That's the bold move. (6:04) It's about acting with conviction and saying, (6:06) this is happening and I'm all in. (6:13) So let's do this.
(6:15) Here's an exercise I want you to try. (6:18) Make a list of three things that you really want. (6:22) Things that you're afraid to admit to yourself, let alone tell anyone else about it.
(6:27) Maybe because they seem too big or like it's never going to happen (6:30) or too different from what everyone is expecting.
(6:36) Write them down and then look at them one by one and ask yourself, (6:45) am I really willing to take the bold steps that I need to take to make these a reality? (6:52) And if the answer is hell yes, then congrats, you're halfway there. (6:56) But if the answer is no, maybe you need a new list.
(7:04) Now the trick is to take one action towards each of those desires this week. (7:09) It can be small. (7:11) It can be just a tiny little baby step.
(7:14) Like today. (7:15) No more waiting for a special invitation to your own dreams.
(7:25) Okay, so if we're being real, one of the biggest reasons we really wait is fear.
(7:35) Fear of judgment. (7:36) Fear of failure. (7:38) Fear of what people will say or think if we finally go after what we really want.
(7:43) We're so scared of being judged. (7:46) But here's the thing. (7:47) People are always going to have their opinions no matter what you do.
(7:51) Shocker, right? (7:53) So why not give them something really juicy to talk about and just freaking go for it. (7:59) Think about it. (8:01) If you're going to be judged either way, (8:03) you might as well be judged for living a life that you absolutely freaking love.
(8:09) Not a life that someone else thinks you should be living. (8:12) That's a bull. (8:15) The truth is people's opinions only matter as much as you let them.
(8:18) And guess what? (8:19) You don't have to let them. (8:22) We've been so conditioned to worry about what they'll think or what they'll say. (8:27) But they're not living our lives.
(8:29) We are. (8:30) So when you catch yourself hesitating, just ask, (8:33) do I want to look back and remember how I lived my life for other people's comfort? (8:38) Or do I want to remember how I went all freaking in with no apologies?
(8:49) Okay, so let's get personal. (8:52) I remember this one time in life.
(8:55) And trust me when I say I can't even count the total number of times. (8:59) But one of those times where I was totally holding back. (9:02) I was in a rut thinking I needed everyone to approve of my dreams (9:06) before I could actually go after them.
(9:07) And if someone told me they were stupid or I was reaching too high, I would freeze. (9:13) The whole waiting for permission thing, remember?
(9:16) I wanted to build a life where I could work in my terms, (9:19) help other women entrepreneurs make an impact. (9:21) But every freaking time I thought about it, (9:23) I'd hear that little voice saying, what will people think? (9:27) What if I fail? (9:28) Who the hell am I to do this? (9:30) No one's going to care.
(9:30) No one's going to listen to me.
(9:33) And then one day I was having drinks with a friend who just looked at me and said, (9:37) Kris, who the hell cares what they think? (9:40) That question was like a slap in the face. (9:43) So I thought about it and she was right, you know, I decided to just go for it.
(9:47) And yes, people questioned me and some judged me. (9:50) And let's be honest, many still judge. (9:53) But you know what? (9:55) Not a single one of them is paying my bills or living my life.
(9:58) I'll never forget the feeling of stepping into that freedom, (10:00) letting go of their expectations and making my own damn decisions. (10:05) I started helping other women do the same. (10:08) And guess what? (10:08) It's so much better than being liked by people who wouldn't support my dreams anyway.
(10:13) So here's my final takeaway. (10:16) And I want you to let it sink in. (10:19) Stop fucking waiting for permission.
(10:22) Because you're never going to feel ready enough or approved enough by anyone else. (10:27) It's your life. (10:28) It's time to start acting like it.
(10:30) So go after your dreams with everything you've got. (10:33) Take that one bold step. (10:35) And yes, even the tiniest of baby steps count.
(10:37) And don't look back because the world is waiting for you to step up, (10:41) to be bold, and to finally own it all.
(10:43) Until next time, remember, you deserve to have the last laugh. (10:47) So get going.
(10:48) You are done waiting. (10:49) Get frickin' ready to claim i